We often hear,” Each and every human is different”? Why usually we don’t quote “All dogs are different”?
The reason lies in the fact that human gestures, facial expressions, body movements & postures differ from those of animals. All of which can be interpreted to have different meanings depending upon the context of communication.
Kinesics is a study of body language; it includes interpretation and investigation of one’s body movements. Ray Birdwhistell discovered this field of science and culturally the word ‘Body Language’ is used more often.
But WHY we need this kind of interpretation? How we can assess a person based upon his body movements, facial expressions, postures, gestures, etc.? What is the need to do the same?
Let’s take an example, if a person says,’ I’m very confident’. Simply by reading this sentence or listening to him, you really don’t know, Is the statement true or not?
In another condition, you got to meet this person who does a firm handshake, stands tall and he is not slouching. What will be your interpretation? Immediately, you will assess him as a confident man!
This is why Body language is a very important part of Human communication, regardless of which it becomes difficult and near to impossible to evaluate one’s identity.
One well-known investigation by Albert Mehrabian found that with regards to communicating your preferences, 55 percent of what you impart is passed on through non-verbal communication; the words you pick constitute 7 percent, and the tone of your voice represent38 percent, individually. This is also referred to as the ‘7%–38%–55% Rule’.
Non-Verbal communication or body language is crucial to understand as when we are aware of our body movements, our impression can be painted on point, but most of the time; it’s a matter of sub-conscious mind which in turn lead to convey signals which you are absolutely not aware of.
What your body is speaking, how it is talking? why it’s responding in a particular manner?
All of these “W’s” can only be answered, if you start observing yourself. So, wherever you will be having your next conversation, observe consciously, and pay close attention to your body language, do they include some of these?
1. Tapping your feet
People may think……you’re Impatient or Bored
Fidgeting is a kind of body movement in which a person continuously keeps his hands or legs moving. It sends a signal that the person is nervous, bored, or lack confidence.
Give it a Try: Whenever you enter such a situation where you are likely to start fidget or tap your leg, make yourself conscious of this habit. Over time, you will notice, it’s completely gone.
2. Slouching at a table
People may think……you’re tired, unimportant or bored
Slouching is defined as sitting and standing in an awkward, drooping position. The person moves with a drooping shoulder and the body appears to be loose and uncontrolled.
Give it a try: If you found yourself slouching, immediately pull your shoulders back, sit straight and lean a little bit. It will make you appear active, participating in a conversation.
3. Overuse of hands while talking
People may think……you’re uncontrollable, not worthy and your talk is vague
Hand gestures are vital to make a speech or conversation look more interesting and interactive. Without the use of hand gestures, your talk will look lifeless. But overusing it can also be hazardous.
Give it a Try: Use one hand gesture for one thought. If it’s very difficult for you to keep your hands in control, grab a glass of wine in your hand, and your problem is solved!
4. Brusque movements
People may think……you’re insecure and rude
Brusque movements are short, quick, and harsh in manner or speech. People who portray brusque movements appear insecure and rude
Give it a Try: Always try to remain calm and watch your actions. Doing word quickly will not make you appear active but flashing uncontrolled and quick movements can make you appear under confident and insecure at times
5. Crossed arms
People may think……you’re afraid or not open to conversation
Crossing the arm is a form of non-verbal communication. It can have various meanings and has gained the attention of body language experts worldwide. If a person crosses his/her arm, it can be due to the fact that he/she is feeling anxious, or that person does not want to have a conversation
Give it a Try: Keep your arms at your side or fold them at back, it will make you appear available for the conversation, calm and composed.
6. Licking your lips
People may think……you’re nervous or giving signals of sexual attraction
Licking lips is one of the bad habits every tenth person possesses. People lick lips when they are feeling anxious, nervous, sexually attracted, or even when their lips are feeling dry.
Give it a Try: Always keep yourself hydrated, apply a generous amount of lip balm, and try to remain cool and calm.
7. Touching your face and hair
People may think……you’re flirting or need attention
Twirling your hair or touching your face, again and again, is a form of non-verbal communication which we all have experienced in our life. Apart from self-grooming, these habits can give other signals like you need attention from someone you daydream about.
Give it a Try: Pay close attention to your habit of touching your face and hair. Refine yourself / ask someone to find you whenever you repeat these gestures. Tie your hair in a ponytail or bun to avoid touching them.
Body language, over decades, has gain popularity and has become an important parameter for an individual’s assessment. Despite the fact that music is viewed as the “general language” that interfaces individuals from everywhere in the world, it isn’t the solitary type of communication that is characteristically perceived by people from varying backgrounds. On a significantly easier and natural level, there’s additionally non-verbal communication, which plainly conveys sensations of bliss, misery, harshness, and dread—once in a while in any event, when we don’t even need it to.
If, you still are using these non-verbal communication cues, or the people around you often use them, now, you know, what actually your body is trying to say.
However, only reading a book will not change the way your body speaks. It takes a lot and a lot of practice and patience to change what you are doing for years now.
It’s totally upon you as an individual that how closely you observe, and how better you implement.
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ARTICLE BY RIYA GUPTA